Our very own tantric masseuse and sex columnist Kendal shares her worldly knowledge and advice in a series of sex articles. This week she tackles the issue on how to improve your sex life.
With many of us having our first sexual experience at an early age - some of my friends lost their V at the rather unbelievable age of 14! - it’s safe to say that we’ve being doing it for a long time now. So with all these years of practice, you’d think we’d have mastered this skill by now, but after speaking to my friends and colleagues, it would seem that you guy’s just aren’t doing it right! Now I’m never one to generalise, nor am I judgemental, so please take my advice as an overall look on things we can all do to improve things in the bedroom department.
One of the biggest complaints I hear it that it’s all over too quickly. For some men it seems to be a rush to the finish line. It should be a mini marathon, not a 100 meter sprint, you’re not Usain Bolt! So slow it down, enjoy the moment and the intimacy.
Secondly, don’t underestimate the importance of foreplay. For a woman especially it’s vital to get the juices flowing, it builds her up and helps things progress along easier, it also pretty much guarantees a more satisfying orgasm.
Finally I say don’t be scared to experiment. If things are getting a little stale with your partner, perhaps you should spice things up a little. Try introducing light bondage or a blindfold. I’m not saying you smack her senseless and stick it in her arse, but working your way up to something more akin to a kinky encounter can be extremely rewarding for the both of you. Introducing another girl into the bedroom can also be something very exciting. I recommend you start by booking a couples tantric massage in London. It’s a great way to explore each other’s likes and dislikes without the fear of crossing any boundaries or causing any unnecessary awkwardness.